Saturday, February 4, 2012
Productive Conflict
I wanted to talk about the concept of Productive Conflict, because I feel it relates to me very well. This type of conflict is very important, because I feel it allows a person bring up a problem, openly talk about it, solve, and just move on with no ill will. To many people these days get very bitter and hold grudges, and honestly its not needed. I feel it helps to have a very open mind in order to achieve a Productive Conflict, because you need to be willing to hear the other person out and see what their side of the story is. It mentions in the book about outcomes, and I think just as it says in the book, that they can develop as the conflict continues. This can be good and bad, good because it can allow you to try and sort out all problems completely and bad because it can cause more conflict. I like to relate this to the relationship me and my sister have, because I feel that we have Productive Conflicts, we do a very good job of communicating whats bothering each other and make sure that in the end, when solved, that there is no ill will. Because thats the point of communicating and figuring out the problem, isnt it? To fix what was broken before. I think this is very vital in all people and most importantly a relationship of any kind.
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I too try to have productive conflicts. I think it is important to approach a problem with an open mind. This allows for both you and the other person to have an open discussion in hopes of reaching a positive conclusion. However, it is often hard to have a productive conflict if both people don't follow a process view of communication. The five steps involved help people to identify a problem and work towards a positive resolution. If one person is being close minded, there is no chance of having a productive conflict, both parties must be willing to compromise and communicate.
ReplyDeleteHi Ateschera,
ReplyDeleteI enjoyed reading your post and felt that you brought up some very good points. You mention that holding grudges and staying bitter is not necessary. I cannot agree with you more. People have conflict, and instead of working through it, they never solve anything. Then they put all this energy into avoiding one another, holding grudges, or being mad. They do this so that they don’t have to put in the effort of resolving their conflict. The irony is that their actions take more energy than managing the conflict would. It takes more energy to hate someone than to forgive them. I’m glad that you can agree how important productive conflict is.