Friday, February 3, 2012
CH.2
I feel that the non process view of conflict was very interesting, the 5 step process allows for many people to really take a look at a conflict, completely and reflect. Most people dont take the chance to look at all the steps before reaction, thus allowing them to possible pre fire or make things very bitter in that conflict. I myself am very open to conflict itself. I dont mind voicing my words if I have to, but my low point in that is, I dont really overview the situation. This can cause for me to think conflict is one sided and im always right, which tends to be the case. Although I know I can possibly be wrong I dont allow it. The one upside to me is knowing that there is no triggering phase with me, I dont allow myself to blow up, although things happen that can spark an argument, for me its a process that may build up, but I dont blow up. Over all I think this is a very interesting topic that I think many people should read about because it may just fix minor problems that turn into huge ones.
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It is amazing how different conflict appears when we look at it from a process perspective. I think that just the awareness that there are steps helps to cool down the boiling blood at times (at least for me). And I think that It is good for others that you never blow up, but I am curious as to how you process your own emotional residues? I have also noticed that the "let's get back together and review our outcome/progress" step is much more likely to happen in non-family scenarios with something like a shared project. For some reason, it seems foreign at first to "schedule" conflict management meetings with family members although the benefits would certainly outweigh the discomfort.
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