Ch.12 #3

The concept I wanted to talk about from the chapter, is blaming. I really feel that blaming is such a huge part of conflict, and more so in a negative light. I think that people tend to shed blame on others and it leads to confrontation. As is says in the book, blaming is, "saying someone is at fault", now I really feel that people tend to blame other in a instant, to possibly relieve what is going on with them, and make them feel better. For more cases there is no justification for a blame, and its more so just a thought or assumption. I want to talk about the time, that I basically threw away a football game single handedly by myself, when playing in high school, I fumble 6 times, and ran for only about 25 yards, keep in mind, in my 3 previous years of high school football, I only fumbled three times, and averaged about 95 yards rushing per game. I went into the locker room at half time and was basically blaming my offensive line for not blocking and other players for not doing their job. This was in hopes to make me feel better about the terrible game I was playing, and essentially I used it as a pick me up, and it never helped. I really felt bad about this and took my teammates out for dinner, and publicly apologized to them. That was me over using blame.