Friday, April 13, 2012
Ch.12 #2
The one time I recall making in a sense a "false attribution" was with my ex girlfriend, and basically she was inplating lies in my head. She was making me believe that my friends were talking about me behind my back, and trying to turn me against them in her favor. It was a very bad situation because I chose to believe her and basically I came to them in the wrong was and pretty much called them out on it. I was so blind to what I was hearing that I missed the truth. It lead to a pretty big fall out between me and a few of my closest friends, and later make me really question myself and the people around me. I should have went to them first to clean up any confusion that I had, but I didnt. Later on though we sat and talked about it to relieve the problem and now things are back to normal, it for sure was a learning experience. There have been times where I have made accurate attributions about some people and it helped me in many ways because it allowed for me to distance myself from fake people. But with that said its a risk some times that you have to take, because it can go negative or in a positive way.
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I have been in a very similar situation to yours. I feel as if many of us have. It's very upsetting when there is someone plotting against you trying to get you away from friends that are true to you rather than accepting it. However, even though this was a really unfortunate event, it is such a great experience to learn from! After this had happened to me, I was extremely careful of who I trusted from then on. If I was put in a situation where I was caught in between two people, I always went straight to the person, and never assumed!
ReplyDeleteWhen someone really close to you is giving your information about another person, it is difficult not to believe them. We like to think that our close friends have our best interest at heart, but sometimes things don't always work out that way. I have been in situations where people have fed me lies about other friends, and rather than talk to that person I started to turn against them without ever knowing the facts. This caused for a lot of drama and hurt feelings. Because of this, I approach people about any issues rather than let misunderstandings or assumptions ruin my friendships.
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